NAVIGATING CONFLICT IN THE FAMILY
By Kristy Moran
One ECK principle that has helped our entire family is to only say something if it meets the following three criteria:
- Is it true?
- Is it necessary?
- Is it kind?
Sri Harold shares this on page 17 of his book Youth Ask a Modern Prophet About Life, Love, and God:
“The guiding rule that will stand you well throughout life is this ECK saying: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?
“Unless the answer is yes for all three, then you would do well to reconsider your intended action.”
Teaching my children to develop this skill has helped tremendously with sibling drama and preteen squabbling.
I use it to short-circuit fights and to help them navigate conflict at home and in the school yard. It is so simple!
Adventures in ECK parenting est un document très intéressant dont j’aimerais partager le contenu en classe de discussion sur Vos enfants et les discours ECK avec les chelas. Cela pourrait aider les parents chelas de la classe dans leur attitude face aux enfants.
I’m so glad to read how Sri Harold’s wisdom is so practical–Is it true, necessary, kind–is really about love in the moment. How are my words, thoughts, or actions a reflection of love? Interestingly, when we visited our son’s high school–displayed on a large banner were nearly those exact words–true, necessary, and kind–a wonderful reminder to spread kindness in our words and actions. Isn’t it amazing how the Master’s words via the ECK filter into the bigger community at large? This is truly the ECK at work.