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NAVIGATING CONFLICT IN THE FAMILY

By Kristy Moran

One ECK principle that has helped our entire family is to only say something if it meets the following three criteria:

  • Is it true?
  • Is it necessary?
  • Is it kind?

Sri Harold shares this on page 17 of his book Youth Ask a Modern Prophet About Life, Love, and God:

     “The guiding rule that will stand you well throughout life is this ECK saying: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?

     “Unless the answer is yes for all three, then you would do well to reconsider your intended action.”

Teaching my children to develop this skill has helped tremendously with sibling drama and preteen squabbling.

I use it to short-circuit fights and to help them navigate conflict at home and in the school yard. It is so simple!